In a a speech at Abu Huraira Center in Toronto few years ago, Imam Shazim Khan who serves as the Imam of Masjid Al-Salaam mosque in Peterborough, Ontario, warned Muslims of suspicious relationship with married women that might cause jealousy and end up in tragedy (the men are “doomed”).
The following is an excerpt from Shazim Khan’s speech:
“One of the rights of the husband over his wife is that she should avoid at all times suspicious situations with other men. And this something very very important. In Islam, Muslims, the man reacts to be very jealous. Jealousy, the ghira [غيرة], is something that is recommended in Islam…
“So a woman should avoid, a wife, should avoid all suspicious situations with other men because that leads to evil speculations… She should also avoid displaying her beauty to strangers… She should also avoid unnecessary talking with stranger men…
“Three types of individuals don’t ask about them because they are doomed…Among them the Prophet PBUH said: ‘A woman when her husband is absent even though he has sufficed her from all wordly needs she adorned herself in his absence to other men, so don’t ask about her.‘
“One of them whom you should not ask about is a woman in the absence of her husband despite the fact that he provided her with every thing she needs. There is no need for her to go out. There is no need for her to call anybody. There is no need for her to talk to anybody. Yet she adorned, she beautified herself and she goes out and she speaks to other men. That individual, don’t ask about her, because she’s doomed.
“The Prophet PBUH and that hadith is from Sahih al-Bukhari, the Prophet PBUH forbids speaking to women without their husbands’ permission.”
Imam Shazim Khan did not explain why those who engage in relationship with a married woman are “doomed” and what is the meaning of being “doomed.”
A book posted on ICNA (Islamic Circle of North America) Canada official website provides a possible explanation. The book “Riyad us Saliheen” (“The Gardens of the Righteous” رياض الصالحين) compiled by Imam Zakaruya Yahya Bin Sharaf An-Nawawi, a Sunni Shafi’ite jurist and hadith scholar who lived in 13th century.
The Gardens of the Righteous , is a compilation of verses from the Qur’an and hadith by Al-Nawawi. It contains a total of 1905 hadith divided across 372 chapters, many of which are introduced by verses of the Quran. The version which appears on ICNA Canada site adds modern commentary to the verses from the Qur’an and hadith.
The following are excerpts from the book which deal with honour killing:
“[Hadith]1628. `Uqbah bin `Amir (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Avoid (entering a place) in which are women (uncovered or simply to mix with them in seclusion).” A man from the Ansar said, “Tell me about the brother of a woman’s husband.” He replied, “The brother of a woman’s husband is death.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].”
“Commentary: This Hadith tells us an extremely important point in respect of the veil about which the majority of Muslims are unaware or negligent. The point that it tells us that a woman must observe the veil from the real brothers, cousins etc., of her husband because their visits in her home are very frequent and there may occur several occasions when they come across each other alone. For this reason, there are greater chances of mischief with them. This explains why the husband’s male relatives have been regarded as “death”, that is from the religious point of view they are fatal.
“In other words, if they commit the mischief, it will prove fatal because in an Islamic state this crime is punishable by Rajm (stoning to death).
“This can also be fatal in another way. If the husband begins to suspect that his wife has illicit relations with someone else, he might kill her or divorce her out of his sense of honour. Even in case of divorce, her life will become desolate. Another meaning of it can be that one should be as much afraid of meeting such women in seclusion with whom any kind of contact is not permissible as one is afraid of death.”