How Indian women are losing their value every day

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One woman colleague of mine recently threatened me of filing sexual harassment complaint. Even though she was joking and it was only when we were discussing feminism in a lighter mood she said that but this light remark enlightened me of another dimension of women’s value in today’s life. We were discussing about my human rights blog and she was objecting saying I portray all women as criminals and she wanted to say “Not all women are the same”. I gave her a open challenge to prove herself on any of my articles and suggested that we could have discussion on my blog instead of an open discussion on the floor.

She is married recently and she denied introducing her husband to me because “he would immediately give her divorce, if I was introduced to her husband”.  I told her that if she is the so called good woman, she needn’t have to be afraid of me or my blog as my blog is only against feminists who are criminals and want to claim all advantage simply based on their gender. When she could not prove herself initially she told that she wanted to kill me and then told she would file harassment case against me, because as she said “my blog was harassing her”.

I used to consider her as a good friend of mine. Like her there were many other women colleagues who were close to me till such time they knew that my blog existed. They started thinking that because of my bad relation with ONE woman I am fighting against all women. I thought of asking them – “would you say the same thing to a rape victim who wants to HangTheRapist?”

What none of those women understood that we did not need to get raped to protest against rape. If it did, then no man would have ever come forward in support ofHangTheRapist campaign.

Today men have gone to the extent of suggesting chopping off genitals of the rapist and in one case in India they have done that too, simply based on rape attempt (and NOT actual rape). This proves that men want to show that they are not criminals and they don’t support a crime like rape. There are many men who openly give statements shaming their manhood. On the contrary, women when they can’t win simple argument want to file sexual harassment complaint or at least threaten to file one. Even if we consider this incident as a joke and probably she didn’t mean what she said but we would never see any man joking and telling a woman colleague of raping her? You can imagine if anyone ever did that then what would have been the reaction from others?

One of my friends from Hyderabad narrated a similar story. While travelling in his car he overheard a woman telling her boyfriend that she wanted to file sexual harassment complaint against her male boss and resign, as he was overloading her with work and she was getting late every day. These complaints are in fact very easy nowadays and the results are known to everyone. The guy loses his job instantly and the woman gets a pay raise and probably easier assignments or promotion.

When any woman files such false cases or takes benefit of such situation she actually proclaims that she gets more benefits because she has a vagina and she does not care about anything else. In a way such women prove only one point, women need to be valued for their vagina and not for their merits or behaviour. When any woman does that she makes it hard for men to distinguish between good and bad women. This distinction becomes harder when other women do not protest against such false cases or do not demand any outrageous punishment for such criminals. All such mute women prove that women need to be valued only for their sexuality and nothing else.

This is applicable for any woman who enjoys any benefit given to her only for being a woman. For instance, reserved seat in bus or in trains, legal provisions for women, reserved seats in educational institutions or grace marks in IIT or IIM. In none of such cases a woman’s merit is considered but only consideration made is of her gender. In other words women are reduced to their genitals with each of these benefits provided to them. Those who provide these benefits and those who enjoy these benefits do not want to recognize themselves as humans, because if they did they would have protested this kind of gender bias in the first place and India’s political history would have been written in a different way.

Personally I am not against reservation for women if that helps them in coming to the mainstream of population, makes their daily commute easier and helps them to participate in workforce. But in all such cases we see that eligible and worthy men are deprived off and women are given such benefits simply based on their gender and that causes more harm to female gender than anything else.

 

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